What if I’m deaf in this world full of sound? What if I was the one person who couldn’t hear everyone else’s thoughts? The only non-telepath, awkward and bumbling and pitiful…
I really like how she approached her topic and especially the end of her talk where she discusses solutions.
And it honestly felt pretty odd because the response of the person I was talking with was something along the lines of “that’s just the way it is” and “no one wants to be a target so just keep your head down”…most of the conversation was actually more “you don’t understand: how big the internet is, people and human nature, freedom of anything”…which maybe, maybe not…does it matter? They weren’t trying to be mean…maybe a little condescending though…I am naive about some stuff but sometimes it’s me trying to be positive because there are different sides to every issue and the good part of anything can sometimes be all the quiet people :-P. Anyways, I felt like all of those things were side issues that are related but not actually the heart of the matter and yet lots of times discussions about behavior on the internet veer towards those topics instead of…well, why, for some people, the illusion of anonymity leads to loss of common decency. Not “why” like “please explain to me how this came about”, because yes, I feel like I understand that “why”…I’m interested more in the response to this behavior, why it’s ok to be like that now. I feel like it used to be that parents and elders and respected peoples 😛 would call out bad behavior and mean-ness…because it’s wrong and that’s how the younger or more immature people learn how to function in a society. I understand that “wrong” is a subjective description but there are some similar standards, right? Why is the collective response directed at the (for lack of a better term) victim (“why are you so sensitive?”) instead of at the aggressor (“why are you being mean/an asshole?”). At the risk of sounding religious at all :-P, treat your neighbors as you would like to be treated…or as you would like your children or parents or favorite person to be treated…I feel like it’s all really murky and difficult and all in terms of definitions but…I guess I just want people to realize that being nice matters…
Ok, I feel like I tangented a bit because the actual segment of Last Week Tonight is about very serious online harassment and not the general toxicity in some areas of the internet that I rambled on about…Anyways, John Oliver and online harassment: